38-year-old gets kicked out of DnD session after he refuses to take his shoes off at his friend's house: 'This is 100% a you problem'

Whatever happened to respecting other people's house rules when you are their guest? This fully grown adult refused to take off his shoes at his friend's apartment and stirred up enough trouble that their entire Dungeons and Dragons group fell apart… all over a pair of shoes.

Now, we are sympathetic to the fact that the author of this tale of friendship drama has a medical condition that requires him to wear shoes at all times, even when he's inside. Otherwise, even the slightest bit of friction could result in him getting cut or bruised very easily. However, at the end of the day, this is a 34-year-old dude who has clearly been to his friend Alex's apartment before and should have been aware of his wife's house rules. To clarify, they have a crawling baby in the house (hence, the strict no-shoes policy). Furthermore, the wife offered some alternative options for the author, such as wearing socks over his shoes or putting on grocery bags over his feet. That should, in theory, be a win-win situation for all involved.

However, let's not forget that the stubbornness of men often gets in the way of progress and compromise. At the end of the day, it was the author's own inability to see things from his friend's perspective that led to more conflict within their entire friend group. In fact, the biggest casualty of all was the fact that the whole DnD session was cancelled over this nonsensical fight. As several members of the online community pointed out, the grocery bags proposal would have been the easiest solve, but this guy simply could not get over his own Main Character Syndrome to let everyone else enjoy the fun of Dungeons and Dragons.

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  • "AITA for refusing to take my shoes off in my friend’s house, causing his wife to cancel the DnD session for everyone?"

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  • While we appreciate that this is a rare instance in which a 34-year-old man is taking good care of his physical and medical health, we also hope that the responses he received not just from his friends but also from folks online will help him see the light. You don't see people who are gluten-free refuse to let other people enjoy their gluten-filled food. Folks with specific conditions tend to plan for alternatives that best suit them in advance without inconveniencing everyone else. It's called being a responsible, thoughtful adult!

  • I (38M) was invited to a DnD session with 4 other people at my friend Alex's (34M) house. When I got there, his wife answered the door and immediately asked me to take my shoes off because they have a strict no-shoes policy due to them having a crawling baby.
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  • I explained that I have a medical condition called epidermolysis bullosa simplex (EBS), which makes the skin on my feet extremely fragile. Even mild friction or pressure can cause painful blisters and tears, so I
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  • have to wear supportive shoes with cushioned orthopedic insoles at all times, even indoors. Walking barefoot or just in socks causes me pain and can lead to bl ding.
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  • She suggested I put grocery bags. or socks over my shoes, but I told her that's unsafe for walking and honestly just insulting. She said she "can't compromise her baby's health for my comfort."
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  • When Alex came to the door, he told me to "just deal with it for a couple hours" or I wasn't welcome inside. I told him I wasn't going to risk injuring myself over a DnD session, and if my shoes were that big of an issue, I'd respectfully leave.
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  • As I walked back to my car, I overheard his wife telling the other guests that were already there that the night was "off" because I "made a huge scene at the door." Later, I got a group text from Alex saying he was canceling DnD night because "it's not fair to expect everyone else to pretend nothing happened."
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  • Some mutual friends say I overreacted and could've just S it up, while others think Alex and his wife were ridiculous for ruining everyone else's plans just because I decided not to stay. So, AITA?
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  • TL;DR: I have a medical condition (EBS) that means I have to wear shoes indoors to protect my feet. My friend's wife demanded I take my shoes off during DnD night for their crawling baby's sake. I told them I would not participate and they ended up canceling the whole session.
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  • Edit: I should add that I texted our friend group chat a few days ago about my concerns with my condition because we changed the location of the meetup to his house instead of mine. Alex reassured me that I shouldn't worry about it, so I didn't bring my indoor shoes.
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  • . Exotic-Knowledge... 11h ago Don't know why you couldn't just cover your shoes with bags
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  • reluctantseahorse 11h ago . YTA!! (Disclosure: I'm from a part of western Canada where it's unthinkable to wear shoes indoors.)
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  • If you have a condition that requires you to wear shoes, then you need to bring "indoor shoes" with you. Just a cute pair of lightweight sneaks in your bag, and you're set! This is what we did in elementary school. It's the only option in a rainy climate.
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  • TheCalamityKitten 11h ago . You're 38 and it has never come up before that someone doesn't want you wearing your dirty outdoor shoes in their home? YTA, at your age you should know how to manage your medical condition while respecting another's home.
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  • • Dangerous_Abalo... 11h ago Hey. I have to wear shoes indoors for medical reasons as well. I keep a separate pair that I only wear indoors and bring them bring when visiting peoples' homes. Is that an option for you? With elastic laces it's not a huge lift to change at the door.
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  • BMcD701 - 11h ago Knowing you have this condition and a good majority of people do not allow shoes in their homes, why don't you have shoe covers for times like these? This is 100% a you problem. Did they overreact by canceling, yes. But YatA
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